Did you ever go somewhere and want to leave, but feel like you needed an excuse to leave?
Like ok.obviously if its work, or another important commitment, you will need an excuse. Like an illness or family emergency. Side note; how is it that when a parent has a sick child and has to leave, its totally fine and never questioned. But if I’m sick, I need to have a doctors certificate and answer 20 questions….
But anyway, back to my point. If I pop in to pick something up from Mum for example, I’ll stay for a quick chat and then if I tell her I’m leaving, I always get; “why? where are you going?”
Is it not enough that I just don’t want to stay? That I get two days off a week and I was looking forward to sitting on my couch and watching My Kitchen Rules. That I just want to go do other things, like put my washing on, watch the sunset, make some ice cream.
If I came at her with these reasons for leaving, they wouldn’t be enough. It wouldn’t be enough for anyone. If I popped into the pub because a work mate was having a farwell and I tried to leave I can’t tell them I’m leaving because I want to go watch the sunset.
People just like to do other things. And everyone else takes it way to personally. Just because I want to be on my couch, does not mean that I don’t like you, or that I don’t value your presence or enjoy spending time with you. It just means that I want to be on my couch!
If I didn’t like you then I never would have made the effort to catch you in the first place.
When I go to social gatherings and then try to leave, it’s so frustrating when I get attacked and inundated with questions and sarcastic remarks.
“Oh, got somewhere more important to be?”
“Too good for us are you?”
“What else do you have to do today?”
“Don’t go! I though we were friends!”
Hello…..I CAME IN THE FIRST PLACE DIDN’T I! Yes, we are friends. No I’m not too good for you. And I don’t have anything else to do today…that’s the point! I want to go enjoy having nothing else to do. On my couch. With homemade icecream.
And the only exception to this, is if I’ve rocked up purely for the sake of a bar tab. Which I’m not proud of, but as an alcoholic, this is generally beyond my control.
But once again….that precious society gets me everytime. Stop being so precious and taking everything so damn personally. Have some self confidence. Because at the end of the day, if that person thinks they are too good to spend time with you, then let them go!!Their loss!